Hello hello beautiful souls!
As a part of my ongoing podcast and blog series, we are continuing the discussion of the 12 Universal Laws, or as I like to call them - the guidelines. Today's topic of discussion is the 4th of the twelve spiritual laws: the Law of Correspondence.
The Law of Correspondence
The Law of Correspondence states that what happens around us, is a direct reflection of what is happening within us; Our internal environments determine our external environments. As Anita Moorjani says in her book Dying To Be Me, “The Universe is contained within us, and what we experience externally is only a reflection”.
How you’re feeling, is what you’re manifesting. And, brace yourself with me, your current reality is a reflection of how you felt in the past. Oof. If you’re anything like me, this concept might sting a bit.
In my (recent) past, I found myself coming up with 'all of the reasons' why I wasn’t where I wanted to be and I hadn’t assumed any personal responsibility for my situation (of course). My excuses usually sounded something like, "well, she came from money and I didn't", or "he was chosen because he's the favorite", or "If I just had that info earlier then..." You get my drift.
I always had excuses to blame my circumstances on (don’t we all?), so I had to ask myself a really vulnerable question—how much of my current experience was manifested because I thought this would be the outcome before I even started?
At first I told myself, “No way. I was definitely hopeful and excited when I first started out.” However, the more I thought about it, the more I remembered that I’ve always had a fear of failure, a need to prove my worthiness, and a deep-seated pessimism that I couldn’t seem to shake. The more I sat with this law, the more I realized this earth shattering truth—I couldn’t blame anyone else for my current situation…. and that really SUCKED.
So, if you’re also feeling a little sheepish right now, be gentle with yourself. None of us were born with everything figured out. You stumbled upon this information when you were ready to hear it and not a moment before. The Universe is always conspiring to help you grow. <3
You are what you feel and our Universe is a reflection of our inner world. Use this law as a mirror to expose yourself to what you‘re experiencing on the inside.
As an example, if you have a reputation of dating emotionally unavailable guys… see if you can find out what this pattern says about your internal beliefs. Toxic people are often our best teachers. The same type of person will often show up again and again because of something coming from within, something we need to recognize and learn from to end the pattern. This level of awareness allows us to make a conscious change. This awareness gives us agency over our own destinies if we allow it to work through us instead of against us. This awareness is what allows us to co-create with the Law of Correspondence.
Because of this law, we can find ourselves in a cycle of repeating the same lessons over and over again until we change our emotions, so if you notice a reoccurring pattern in your life, focus on changing your reactions, your train of thought, and shifting to a positive focus. Your focus and attention matters; your intention matters.
Correspondence by Association
The Law of Correspondence breaks down why it is so important to be consciously aware of what you’re allowing around you; because this is impacting what shows up within you. Paying attention to the things you're consuming, and deciding whether or not it fits with the identity you're trying to create, is a great "life de-cluttering" tool you can use to gauge your current alignment.
What you’re feeling at any given moment is a culmination of your beliefs, the things you’re continuously exposing yourself to, AND how you're reacting to those things (your choice of emotions, the attitudes of the people around you, the drama you're watching on tv, what you're engaging with on social media, etc.). The energy of all of these things impacts us energetically, so start to notice what drains you and what energizes you.
You become the energetic average of the things you choose to surround yourself with; you are what you give attention to!
Since we're not striving for perfection in this community, take an inventory of where you think your "correspondence scales" are leaning within your life. Mostly healthy and positive, or draining and negative? I'm not telling you that you have to give up your True Crime podcasts if that's what brings you joy ;) What energizes you might drain me and vise versa. And, if there is something you enjoy that also drains you, then you have the ability to counteract this with something that brings you back into alignment. So, maybe before or after bingeing Stranger Things for a few hours (or days….), you spend time meditating, journaling, walking, swimming, painting, cleaning, or whatever makes you feel rejuvenated. It’s all a game of balance....
“As within so without, as above so below”.
The paradox of the Law of Correspondence is that the things around you influence how you feel, but how you feel can also alter the things around you… it's a cycle that can flow both ways (pause and re-read that again).
The only way we can permanently change this cycle, and our resulting external environment, is to go within and do the inner work, the shadow work, and the self-development (and no, this isn’t comfortable!). You can't escape or out-manifest a negative, fearful, or anxious mindset.
Our Emotions and the Law of Correspondence
Despite my reservations, this law confirms that we're creatING from the internal environment we’ve creatED. In other words, this law is possible because we’re highly emotional beings (expressed or not) with expectations of ourselves. The moods we’re in, colors the way we look at things and the meanings we apply; Logically, it’s confirmation bias.
If you’re in a good mood, you will likely take a compliment well and believe that it is genuine—perpetuating (or confirming) that emotional state. However, if you were in a bad mood when that same compliment was given, you might perceive it as pity, inauthentic, or sarcasm.
Internal feeling = external projecting
We're all walking around projecting our internal narratives, causing our external environment to pick up on our que and then “prove us right”. Because of this, the Law of Correspondence encourages us to be very self-aware of how we're feeling and what we're projecting.
The beauty in this law is that you can decide to change the second you become aware. There doesn’t need to be a delay unless you believe so. So, how do we do this?
Manifesting with the Law of Correspondence
As we discussed, the Law of Correspondence is ruled by our internal world (emotions, expectations, beliefs, etc.), so one of the most powerful ways to manifest what we want is to shift this internal environment by: practicing appreciation.
Now, I used to cringe every time I heard this too. so before you start thinking, “here goes another b***** talking about gratitude…. I’ve already done that!!!”, hear me out.
In my mind, I’d “been there done that” with the gratitude practices and they weren't helpful. I’d always ask myself, “Why does every spiritual nut say this?!”. Frankly, I was f****ing tired of hearing it. And, (while I didn’t love to hear this over and over) one day I heard it differently. Here is the concept I missed for years as I rolled my eyes at “Gratitude First” mugs:
Gratitude isn’t about doing, it is about being.
We're not setting ourselves up for success when we put a gratitude practice as a task on our to-do list to check off as we go through our morning routine. As a result, this usually doesn't work. The energy we put into the practice is the energy we get out of it. If we half ass a gratitude practice by simply going through the motions before checking email, it won’t help us get closer to our goals. Do less, be more.
Imagine all of the things you “do” to feel productive—do they normally cause an internal change? Probably not. Most of the things we put on our to-do lists are not awe-inspiring and there is usually a dash of "let's get this over with". When you're 'doing' and not 'being, you're likely to start procrastinating the 'practice' within the first few weeks or you throw it out all together because it "was a waste of time". At least, that was my experience OVER and OVER again!
So instead of “making time to practice gratitude every day” or adding it to your list of things to do, find moments where you’re already feeling appreciative throughout the day, and lean into that feeling more while staying there longer.
If your partner did something thoughtful, take that moment to really feel into your appreciation and love for them. See how long you can stay in that feeling and notice how you feel afterward. Do this for every person that lets you over while driving, gives you a free coffee, or holds the door open for you and you will start to notice something remarkable: these kinds of situations will happen MORE OFTEN giving you MORE OPPORTUNITIES to be grateful.
Over time, you will train your brain to practice gratitude naturally and you wont have to “make time for it”. It will just happen because it feels good to sit in these feelings, to “be” instead of “do”.
The more we feel grateful, the more the Universe will give us things to be grateful about. What we focus on is what is returned to us. Finding moments to express gratitude will create more conditions, that will perpetuate more opportunities, that will create more feelings of gratitude.
How the Law of Correspondence Can Work Against Us
If you’re not ready to practice gratitude in the way I’ve described, that’s ok. There isn’t a right and wrong strategy for manifesting and that may not feel right to you. However, at least allow your new understanding of this law to help you avoid manifesting what you do NOT want.
When we focus on the things we don’t want, we cause an internal shift in the way of desire, wanting, needing, not-having—we come from a place of scarcity. When we focus on or dread an outcome, we are causing our internal environments to align with the things we do NOT want. This is why it's so common to manifest the wrong things. It's because we can't stop aligning ourselves to the undesirable outcome by thinking about it all the time.
As an example, if you focus on how broke you feel, the Universe gives you more opportunities to feel broke. If you're constantly worried about getting fired at work, chances are you're more likely to get fired. If you’re feeling angry, explosive, and betrayed, your outer world will reflect back to you more chaos, jealousy, and resentment, perpetuating the issue.
Don't allow your fears to become your focus, or the Law of Correspondence will work against you.
To help this law work for you, become aware of your emotional responses, your bodily sensations, your perceptions, and your reactions to things. As you heal internally, you manifest better outcomes externally.
If you want to manifest your version of success, prioritize making time for self-reflection and healing, working towards emotional resiliency and internal alignment. Uncovering and working to unravel beliefs about ourselves and our lives that do not serve us is the single most important thing we can do for manifestation. We have to make the choice to become more aware of our internal conditions every day; hard choices for an easy life.
The quality of your thoughts determine the quality of your life.
When your life does not look how you want it to, go inward. Avoid the temptation of looking outside of yourself for a quick fix. Be very cognizant of the thoughts you’re experiencing. Notice what thoughts, emotions, and behaviors are triggering negative habits and break the cycles, so you can change your reality.
The Law of Correspondence is all about your internal environment manifesting your external environment. If something isn't working, look within to realign and assess where you place your energy. We can't out-manifest our emotions or mindset. "As above, so below. As within, so without".
Thank you so much for hanging out with me today! Have a fantastic rest of your week, and I will catch you next Monday. Until then, go out there and manifest some miracles.
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