Hello hello and welcome back my friends! Today I’m jumping into a topic that came up during a recent wine night with some friends—manifesting for other people. This is a question that comes up a lot when I talk with friends and family about manifestation. After all, why wouldn’t it? We love those closest to us and want them to benefit from manifestation too! So, let’s get into it…
While this answer isn’t 100% black and white, the short answer is… No. No, you cannot. Trust me, I have TRIED. I have REALLY tried to help those in my family become more abundant, but it's like that old saying goes, "you can lead a horse to water, but you cannot force them to drink".
The main reason why manifesting for others doesn't work is that you cannot change someone else’s vibrational match for them. Each person’s journey is their own and the person who desires something has to be an energetic MATCH for the things they want in order to have them manifest. Unfortunately, while our own vibration can influence theirs, it does not change the other persons without their cooperation.
Let’s say that one of your best friends wants a new job, but they’re really negative about it so they don’t get their hopes up (aka, protecting themselves). Maybe they think, “I really want to get this new job, but I bet they will choose someone else…” Then, you come in with your great intentions and say, “Don’t worry! I’ll help you manifest it! I’ll visualize for you tonight! It's all going to be great.” This is very sweet of you, but it won’t work.
However, you can still help this friend by helping them raise their own vibration by boosting their emotions about the possibility of getting the new job. In the end, if the other person chooses to keep their negative mindset, then they will continue to manifest bad luck and negative outcomes. And yes, their negativity is a CHOICE and a habit that they could change if they wanted to, but unless they're willing to there isn't much you can do. In fact, you can check out episode #48 if you want to learn more about how to do this. No amount of positivity coming from you will change what your friend is manifesting UNLESS they allow you to improve their emotional set point for themselves. Their success is completely up to them!
Asking whether or not you can manifest for someone else comes up the most when people want to know if they can help a parent or a sibling acquire more money. I get it. We love our families and want them to share in the same success you’re having with manifestation. However, you can’t force someone to change their money mindset either. So, we can’t manifest for them unless that parent or sibling does something to raise their vibration or change their money mindset.
Their money mindset has got your friends/family/coworkers where they are, and like I preach, you can't change this mindset until you work on it. Even if you were to give that person money and act on behalf of the Universe as a source of abundance, the recipients will most likely self-sabotage and find a way to blow that money in all the wrong places because THEY WEREN’T A MATCH FOR THAT MONEY (at least not yet). In fact, this is why over 70% of lottery winners end up bankrupt—you can't keep or have what you’re not a match for.
So, let's talk about what being a match looks like. Being an energetic match for money means understanding the basic concepts money, not blowing it because of a scarcity mindset, appreciating how it can work for you, and treating money like a friend and not like a toxic ex-boyfriend (oof, been there…). All of these examples tie into the Law of Action. The other person has to WANT to take action toward change. In the lottery example, the reason so many end up bankrupt is because they do not do anything to help them become a match; They do not learn more about money, finances, investing, and they do not take the time to become their own personal CFO. It’s Law of Attraction AND the Law of Action that most people do not take—both are required!
Straight to the Point
To summarize my point: the short answer is no, you cannot manifest for others; however, you CAN influence someone to take appropriate actions to change their emotions and manifest positive change for themselves. The best way to do this is by working on yourself and hope they choose to follow your lead!
I hope this post either provides clarity for you or an opportunity to release guilt if you’ve unsuccessfully tried to manifest for others!
Have a great rest of your week, and I will catch you next Monday. Until then, go out there and manifest some miracles.
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