Updated: Mar 1
Hello my MoMa fam! Welcome back to my blog if you're a regular reader. If you're new, welcome!
We’ve talked a lot about various tips and tricks to manifesting throughout this blog, but there is one thing I don’t think I’ve touched on... enough, and I think it’s one of the most important aspects of manifestation—the art of letting TF go. Releasing, not caring... too much. Channeling you're inner Elsa..... *Let It Go*
This is the ultimate paradox about manifestation. Desiring enough to manifest, but not too much that you embody resistance.
But before I get too far into this, I want to make a clarification. I’ve seen a lot of people say “I don’t know how to manifest”, or “manifestation doesn’t work”.
Manifestation is natural. It is what you’re constantly doing all the time. The reason we talk about it and give it so much attention is to make you aware of how you’re impacting WHAT you’re manifesting and HOW.
I love when people say “they don’t know how to manifest”, because you’re already doing it. Your life is a reflection of what you’ve manifested. And, this allows you to step out of victim hood and step into owning your circumstance and pulling yourself up if need be. No matter the trauma experiences.
Victim hood is a choice. It is a choice that is made everyday. A choice to LIVE in resistance. Really, the ultimate resistance because I think playing victim is one of the lowest vibrations. And when you play victim, you accept that vibration and FIND more reasons to be a victim. And so much of this is a mindset shift which significantly impacts your energetic level.
When it comes to manifesting, you can't out visualize a crappy mindset. You continually manifest who you are and the thought's you're having. Manifestation is a natural gift when used toward your advantage, but you need to ensure it is working with you, in flow. You can manifest way more good in your life by getting into alignment....by letting TF go.
As you think about manifestation, remember you’re already doing it. It is already a natural gift of yours, but it’s either worked for or against you based on your positive or negative mindset. Are you someone who thinks life happens to you! Or for you? Do you complain about your circumstances to anyone who will listen? If this triggers you, listen to that. What part of you doesn’t like this message and why? You can choose live a life as a victim, or a creator, but you cannot be both.
If you choose creator, you choose to believe that life is always working for you. That life will unfold for you exactly how it needs to, when it needs to, and that it may not always be how you think it needs to. This is the art and message of today’s episode—letting go.
Manifestation is not toxic positivity. It’s not running around pretending everything is fine while the damn house is on fire. It is knowing and trusting that everything is happening for a reason, the good AND. the bad. As humans, we’re intended to experience both. It’s how we grow in this life.
To get woo woo on y’all, If you believe in soul contracts and reincarnation, then you know that this life is supposed to challenge you to learn a series of lessons. How those lessons show up is not up to us. So let them go, and stop resisting. Otherwise, the challenge may show up again and again until you learn the damn lesson!
Anything that happens to you has some message for you. OR, it allows you to impact someone else who needs you. Accept what is as a part of life happening for you.
I continue to relearn this lesson constantly. I’m a recovering perfectionist AND. A Virgo, so letting go of control or “the how” something happens is like asking me to jump off a cliff and trust that someone put a harness on me. It is a leap of faith. A leap that I struggle to WANT to make!
Manifestation requires you to BECOME what it is you want to manifest, before you have it. Paradox. It requires that you set your intention and ask for what you want, but without asking too much. Paradox. Passionately knowing what your life is going to look like and stepping into the trust that it’s coming, without being needy. Paradox.
The ultimate challenge most people run into... is not living in flow. Having resistance. Not letting go.
For me, this is one of the most counter intuitive aspects to manifestation. This is a lesson that I need to revisit from time to time. And, to this day, nothing has taught me more about surrendering to the Universe than my wedding day.
I’m sure many can relate.
Like so many weddings, the day started off with its fair share of challenges. I had 30 last minute guest cancellations, the caterer had an issue getting the credit card processed, my flowers weren’t ready because my florist had the wrong pickup date, a bridesmaid’s dress didn’t fit, another bridesmaid forgot her shoes, I forgot to pickup petals for the flower girl, the decorations weren’t setup in advance, people were eating the grooms cake before the ceremony started..... you get the picture
I was starting to get really stressed out about these issues...when I had a beautiful moment of clarity. I released. I thought to myself, “None of this will matter in a few hours. The most important thing is that I marry my partner”.
With that affirmation, I let everything go. I surrendered to what will happen. I surrendered to the Universe. And when I did this, within THAT VERY HOUR, 100% of these problems were solved or somehow fixed miraculously.
I mention this story because the biggest thing people forget to do when they’re trying to manifest, is to surrender. To allow the Universe to take control and work for you. To step into the identity, know what you are, and then go into flow....to release and live without resistance.
So many of us, especially my perfectionists out there, can’t seem to let go of the control. We want to have a say in the “how” or the “what” without having any idea what is best for us. We have to be patient, we have to trust, we have to let go.
If you feel like you’re doing everything right and you’re so frustrated because you’re not manifesting what you want.....this is for you. See what manifests when you surrender to the will of the Universe. When you stop fighting the Universe for control, you allow the things that are meant for you to flow to you without resistance.
Surrender. Surrender. Surrender.
This is the key thing missing from a lot of people’s manifestation journeys. Yes, set an intention, yes give it positive energy, yes visualize your feeling goals and ideal life, if those are techniques that help you step into the identity and flow.... but whatever you do, you need to let go of the how. You need to let go of the need to control. You need to learn to release.
If you’re a fellow recovering perfectionist you’re probably already sweating. It’s ok. You can let go.
There is an expression I avoided for so many years because of my own trauma around Christianity, but it’s such a beautiful phrase and there is so much truth in it that I’ve re-learned to accept it. This phrase is, let go and let god.
Let go, and let god. If there were a catchy version of this to plug universe in for god, I’d give it to you! But I haven’t found that yet.
Too many of us struggle to manifest what we want because we care too damn much. We can’t let go. We won’t let god!
Manifestation is a giant paradox. You have to want it, but not desperately. You have to ask for what you want, see it, feel it, ask for it, give it energy, become it, but then you have to let us go, walk away, and know that the Universe is working on it for you.
Do not micromanage the Universe. If you’ve been going through manifestation practices and you’re not making headway, try letting go. Releasing. Having a KNOWING that it is coming.
This is why we talk about acting as-if so much. If you embody the identity of someone who already has what you're asking for, then you wouldn't need to micromanage. You would just know that it's coming. And you walk with that confidence until it shows up in your life, in a timing that works for your highest good.
Desperation is scarcity and The Universe interprets this energy as lack, neediness, negativity. Too much desire leads to scarcity. There is a fine balance.
So this is my lesson for you today. To let go. Allow. Get into flow so you are not in resistance.
Have a great rest of your week!
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