I date myself, a lot. I take myself to the movies, dinner, bowling, on vacations, you name it. Sound weird? You're not alone! I can't tell you how many times I get told "Oh, I could never do that" or "you have so much confidence to be by yourself!" or "that sounds so nice, but I would be so uncomfortable". Honestly, I was one of these people several years ago. It's hard not to be when you're raised in the South.
Dating myself has been so life changing for me that this is my SECOND post on this topic (see past instagram post)! This conversation keeps coming up for me, especially as the self care topic has gained in popularity. Taking yourself out to dinner, as an example, may sound silly and trivial but it speaks volumes about your ability to be comfortable with yourself. With only yourself. No phone, no book, no journal. Just, be. I'm not going to lie, it is a challenge! This was one of the biggest tests I ever experienced that gauged my self-sufficiency and independence. We live in such a fast paced world between mobile e-mail, articles posted hourly, text messages, etc. that it is no wonder finding stillness and intentionally slowing down is HARD. And doing it without any distraction to calm that anxious energy? Even harder.
Why is dating yourself important?
Self-love. It helps set a very important narrative and coaches your mind to believe—you are worthy, valuable, and lovable. Many of us are aware of this concept, but it's so difficult to put it into practice. This is where dating myself has become a saving grace. Unfortunately, being, eating, living alone is a social taboo in the Western world that is often confused with loneliness. A lot of people worry about being judged for enjoying their solo time. Thankfully, the concept of self-care has become popular with the hashtag "treat yo self", but this is often mistaken for self-love. The good news is that the more you intentionally sit with yourself without any distractions the easier and more enjoyable it becomes. Will it feel awkward at first? Hell ya it will! I felt like I was crawling out of my skin and